Hmph She Got Y’all Together!!!

Yes, I know these letters are old but it fits with what I am doing. So read them leave your thoughts and expect my rebuttle in the coming week.

Dear jamie:
i’m sorry but i would like to challenge some of your black male readers. I am a white female who is engaged to a black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don’t understand a lot of black female’s attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before i became engaged, whenever i went out i was constantly approached by black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don’t they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks i get and snide remarks when we’re out in public. I would like to hear from some black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. But, right now, i’m a little angry and that is why i wrote this so hurriedly. Don’t be mad with us white women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If i’m wrong, black men, let me know.

– disgusted white girl, somewhere in va

Hmph she got y’all together!! LOL

Now a black mans response

Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted
White Girl..

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I
graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgi a with
a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major
corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be
among the ranks of successful black men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just
want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the
day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because
they were considered easy.

The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church.
They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it
to. Because of  our im patience to wait, brothers would look for someone who
would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women
because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of
insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have be come
intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will
be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars
and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more
docile woman.     Someone we can control.

I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously
comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I
just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White
Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan,
Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth ‘Babyface’ Edmonds , Samuel
L.  Jackson, and Chris Rock, and more importantly President Barack Obama all married strong black women And, to
flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who
openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted
Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and Robert Thick, to na
me a few.

I just don’t want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop
thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.

Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and
Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves
of Europe   eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.
Read your history!

It was t he black woman that taught you how to cook and season
your food.    It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children.
It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during

It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women
were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a
woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the black women’s strength, elegance, power,
love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It
is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the
fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.

Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black
women…  Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity,
their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what
they believe in,  and their determination to succeed and reach their
highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why
I have fallen  in love with black women. BR>

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward
jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you
continuously go to  tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be
white, then why don’t you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue
to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous
substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?

I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to
have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can
walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife
and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my
struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and;
unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Signed, Black Royalty



5 thoughts on “Hmph She Got Y’all Together!!!

  1. This was wild…where have I seen that letter before?
    I agree with Black Royalty that A disguested White Girl was coming from an insecure and hateful place with her letter. No facts, no stats, just hateful bull about how she doesnt like stares from other black women- people outside of her relationship???!!!
    If I’m with my man (regardless of color even though I’ve never had a steady white bf), I take the stares comments and any type of reaction as a compliment..if it wasnt interesting you wouldnt be looking

    • Exactly! She was coming from a hateful place. I read this a while back but I think it is still so relevant to our lives in this day and age. You know I got to write something to argue with her. I wish she had a blog so I could send it to her. LOL

  2. i agree. but where i’m from, most black woman still look for a man to have what they need and if they don’t then the woman won’t get it her for herself. Most black women i know say “if i only had a partner” Well, you don’t, so get it by yourself. I hate when i walk into a forty something year old ladys APARTMENT and she says she would have more if she had a man.That’s B.S.

  3. Hi! As a white, male, Christian brother I think you have a lot of sensible attitudes and make some great points. I enjoy reading your insights. But I just wanted to alert you to some of the kinda racist things in this post, because they can be really offensive and a huge divider of people who should be united. Europeans didn’t “eat raw meat” …it’s cold in the Global North so we build fires, and there’s no reason not to cook once you’re that far. This myth is a sneaky bit of racism, sort of like the lies about Native Americans being cannibals. All people have been civilized and uncivilized at certain points. The Greeks and Iranians once had great kingdoms, and look at them now. Though you are right that some of the Pharoahs had black queens. I totally get that you’re frustrated at white women but please remember that words can cause deep wounds and stir up hate that would really be better left to die.

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