Disclaimer: This is not to make anyone feel bad but to shed light on the fact that being a groupie should not be one of your life goals. If you get offended by this post then it was meant for you. But regardless, from one black woman to another I LOVE YOU and only want the best for you guys. Even the the groupies. (I really like disclaimers. Make me feel important. HA.)
So I honestly thought that SuperHead would be the first of last to do this but I am sadly mistaken. Now as of late these jump offs and groupies been getting out of hand. Yesterday I was on twitter (my source for ALL news) and I noticed that everyone and their mother was talking about a young woman by the name of Kat Stacks. Me being nosey and wanting to know the scoop asked someone to link me up to her blog. Prior to reading her blog, I was a little upset with the fact that so many people felt the need to attack her. I tweeted something like, ” Why are people calling her out when they have hoe tendencies themselves”? I stand behind that tweet. Even after I read the blog, I stood behind my tweet.
Now I will discuss Kat first because she has the internet buzzing now. I don’t know if the stories are true and honestly I don’t care. I feel really bad that she feels the need to put herself out there like that. It’s one thing to be a groupie, prostitute or whatever she is but it’s another to broadcast it. I sat and read her blog and honestly I couldn’t figure out what all the talk was about. She wasn’t exposing anything. She slept with irrelevant rappers and she really didn’t profit from it. Where’s the story? The one disturbing post she had was her bio. I read and wondered to myself who didn’t love her as a child? Who mistreated her or harmed her? Because there was something she may have lacked as a little girl that now she is searching for as an adult. I pray she gets some help, considering she has tried to end her life several times. I hope someone who is close to her will reach out and do something because if she has tried suicide before, she may try again.
Now being on twitter my timeline was being filled with tweets from her. She and a few rappers argued back and forth about the situations she “outed” them about. I felt like un-following the people who felt the need to play into this foolery. The one thing that really annoyed me was the fact that people were enabling her and basically making it seem as if what she is doing is ok. It’s not. End of story. Selling yourself, giving it up to people who can care less about you and broadcasting it, is not cute. It’s not okay to sell yourself short. And it’s definitely not a good look to be considered a whore. Everything you do will be remembered and I am sure she wouldn’t want her grandchildren knowing that she slept with rappers for a living.
Now please don’t come on my blog saying I am a hater because I am not. I could never hate on someone who is hurting, seeking love, affection and attention from men. And for all of you who fit my tweet, let me say this, I think I was more upset with you all than I was with her. The main people blasting her, are in the same profession as her. You may not be sleeping with celebs but some of you are just as thirsty to be put on by them. I was aggravated with the fact that these half-naked women decided to call her a hoe when most of them has been on someone’s “Love” show. How dare you go at her like you didn’t do the same thing? Don’t be blind to your own hoe sh**. That can be deadly if it’s not recognizable.
She is not the next Superhead either. I really hate people feel she will get big off of this because she won’t. The difference between her and Karrine is the fact that Karrine held her stories to the end. No making bad blood till she finished the book and was making millions off of it. If you want to be like Karrine, you may want to ask her how she did it. I am sure she will let you know. I’m really starting to believe that some of you say to yourself, “Ooh when I grow up I am gonna be the next SuperHead. I am gonna sleep with rappers, get pregnant, write a book and get rich”. If this is your thought process, please hit me up so we can pray or just talk because you deserve better in your life.
Ugh I am done but this goes to show that girls and women need their fathers. We need more positive role models to prevent situations like this from happening. We need more women, especially my sistas to step up and mentor girls so they won’t have to go through this. We need more of these video girls, strippers, adult stars and prostitutes to tell these young girls the truth about the life they lead. They need to know that it’s not all glitter and gold. This makes me realize that I need to start back volunteering with kids. I think I may sign up tomorrow, so I can at least try to save one life. I have been wanting to write a post about fathers and the validation their daughters seek from men other than them for some time now. Finally the door is open for me to do so. I asked a question last week on Twitter/Facebook and I am going to post it here. Feel free to answer and leave comments.
Do you feel that some women seek validation from men in their relationships? If so, why? How can we help them not to look for it from men? Do you ever look for your father (whether he was around or not) in men?
Men feel free to answer also!! Let me know if you have met women who looked at you as their father.
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Editors Note: Took her picture down because I don’t like pics like that on the blog.